force another soul to change.
Relationship eschews all guaranties.
And tandem growth admits no settled range;
some partners will advance and some recede.
it is not for ourselves we change,
but for the love of another;
someone we love the way they are . . .
also dearly want to love us back.
(And in that active hoping
lies the fun
of all that we ourselves may yet become.)
Self sufficiency is ego’s cubic zirconium.
but worthless glitter obscures the earthly path
which, ever ours to fritter, portends
(Whose dowry, our honest vulnerability,
is the only true safe harbor.)
mistake this for codependency.
True love bodes choice, not confinement.
But self-actualization is a half-truth;
the flower does not blossom for itself.
So BE THOU the one for whom I might change,
and love me enough to flourish with me.
call me “Husband,” and I will call you “Wife.”
Our love for each other makes our own change possible,
meaningful, and life worth living.