cannot force another soul to change.
Relationship eschews all guaranties.
And tandem growth admits no settled range;
partners will advance and some recede.
it is not for ourselves we change,
but for the love of another;
someone we love the way they are . . .
but also dearly
want to love us back.
in that active hoping lies the fun
of all that we ourselves may
Self sufficiency is ego’s cubic zirconium.
but worthless glitter obscures the earthly path
which, ever ours to fritter, portends
dowry, our honest vulnerability,
is the only true safe harbor.)
not mistake this for codependency.
True love bodes choice, not confinement.
But self-actualization is a half-truth;
flower does not blossom for itself.
So BE THOU the one FOR WHOM I might change,
and love me enough to flourish WITH ME.
call me “Husband,” and I will call you “Wife.”
love for EACH OTHER makes our
own change possible,
life worth living.